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He asked if I\u0027d like to get together over the weekend - said he\u0027d touch base the next day. Didn\u0027t hear from him til Sat, the day of the supposed date. I replied that I couldn\u0027t make it, but we\u0027d \u0022figure out something soon\u0022. Felt like a mutual brush-off, which was just fine.\r\n\r\n* Had another date with Austin Powers, our 6th or so? Nice mellow evening. Seeing him again later this week, making it three weeks since we\u0027ll have seen each other. Feeling nice and easy -- there\u0027s an attraction there, but no crazy fireworks. And maybe that\u0027s OK? Anyway -- I\u0027m enjoying taking it slowly.\r\n\r\n* had date #185 -- ie, the 185th new guy I\u0027ve gone out with since March 2005. First met this guy last summer -- he asked me out then, but I had a boyfriend. As soon as he saw my \u0022single\u0022 status on Facebook when Jon Hamm and I broke up, he asked me out again. It took til this week to get together. I had a feeling he might not really be my type -- seemed a bit nebbish-y -- and I was right. Nice guy, but SO not for me.\r\n\r\n* Teen Crush. We dated for a few months in late 2007, then he moved 1500 miles away. We occasionally emailed in a friendly, platonic way -- but I\u0027ve never quite stopped having some kind of lingering feeling for him.\r\n\r\nWell -- he\u0027s planning spending some of the summer in NY, and said he\u0027d \u0022love love love\u0022 to get together. When he and I were dating, I was at least 15 lbs thinner -- huge incentive to go to bed NOW so I can go for that run in the morning...\r\n\r\nI told my shrink about him earlier tonight, and she told me: \u0022The way you just smiled about him? I haven\u0027t seen you talk about any other guy like that\u0022. 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I struggled in my first class but he smiled at me and said, \u0022Keep coming back.\u0022 And i did. He\u0027s challenging, supportive, and encouraging. I hope @equinox gets him back on the schedule. I\u0027m up to 3 classes a week and find that when i dont do yoga, i feel off-balance. I had a terrible last two days, but i took a class today and immediately felt better about myself. That\u0027s what yoga does for me. It makes me feel stronger and like i accomplished something. I needed encouragement and class today gave it to me. I left feeling lighter and more confident. #yoga #fitness #gym #focus #balance #dontquit #strength #nyc\r\n\r\nFriday\u2019s downpour was not going to stop me. I headed out into the rain, determined. As always, Nick (the instructor) was there twenty minutes before class to set up the studio with lights and music, unlike all the other instructors that waltz in five minutes before class starts to fiddle with their headset. Class begins and it\u2019s everything I hoped it would be. The degree of difficulty in Nick\u2019s class is a smidge above my regular Vinyasa classes. He always mixes up his practice so students don\u2019t get bored, plus he throws in several challenging poses.\r\n\r\nEverything was going swimmingly until I heard a melodic ding of a text alert and then an annoyed hiss from the left side of the room. I ignored it and focused on the instructor\u2019s calls. A bit later I hear the instructor, in a very calm voice, say, \u201cTake that outside, my friend. Not in here.\u201d I look up to see a guy standing up holding his phone.\r\n\r\nMore hissing from the left.\r\n\r\nI don\u2019t know if they guy was checking a text or turning his phone off or what. I didn\u2019t really pay attention because I was too plugged into the class. The moment was a blip in an otherwise perfect class. Five minutes before the cool-down portion begins, the woman to my right gets up and leaves the studio.  I\u2019ve mentioned this before: I find leaving a class early to be rude and disruptive. Your mileage may vary on that.\r\n\r\nClass ends and I\u2019m feeling centered and relaxed. 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You\u2019re like Solid Snake in Metal Gear Solid with a bunch of guns pointed at him lifting a nearby cardboard box and hiding under it while they\u2019re watching lol\r\n\r\n\u201cI\u2019m pretty sure I kind of smirked when I said it\u201d\r\n\r\nlol it wasn\u2019t a very volatile situation, but this smirk is what can turn it into one. Then you get into the whole \u201cyo you disrespecting me motherfucker??\u201d street vibe step-up chest-bump shit and it goes downhill from there. It\u2019s funny and ballsy, but you don\u2019t want to spend the weekend hitting on the nurses in the trauma unit. :)\r\n\r\n\u201c\u2018Nah we don\u2019t need to be friends motherfucker, get the fuck on.\u2019\u201d\r\n\r\nUnderstand, YOU caused this reaction with your dismissive smirk and ignoring his warning etc. Ya, it\u2019s a ballsy story and fun to tell and you \u201csaved face\u201d and all that, and that\u2019s cool, but this escalation is the consequence of that and you have to ask yourself in these situations \u201cis the outcome going to be worth it? Or is there a better way to handle this? Or even should I just take the hit and walk away even if it means the people around me will think I\u2019m a pussy?\u201d Remove emotion and go with logic.\r\n\r\n\u201cthe 9 has watched the whole time\u2026and her expression is serious\u201d\r\n\r\nShe has to look serious because the situation is escalating and she has to make it look like it\u2019s all your fault, like you\u2019re hitting on her, not like she\u2019s giving you iois and secretly enjoying you hitting on her. This is like when a taken chick sleeps with a guy and 100% is into it, but then gets caught by her BF and panics and cries rape or whatever, because she doesn\u2019t want to look like a slut that wanted sex.\r\n\r\n\u201cThen, I just kind of do a lackadaisical shrug\u2026she grins.\u201d\r\n\r\n","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2023-04-04","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2023-04-04","bf_horaire":"","bf_site_internet":"http:\/\/","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"BuildingYourTribeTheImportanceOfFriendsh","date_creation_fiche":"2025-04-04 15:18:55","statut_fiche":"1","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-04-04 15:18:55","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222023-04-04\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222023-04-04\u0022 data-bf_site_internet=\u0022http:\/\/\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022BuildingYourTribeTheImportanceOfFriendsh\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-04-04 15:18:55\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-04-04 15:18:55\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/colibris-groupeslocaux.org\/?BuildingYourTribeTheImportanceOfFriendsh","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"Cohabitation vs. Marriage","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41V0MU7 Surviving a Long-Term Affair and Saving a Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iwlwbV Transforming Communication and Parenting in a Troubled Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4c037lm Healing a Marriage by Confronting Insecurities and Building Trust]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4kSx1Mh Religious Differences and Strengthening Marriage Bonds]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4bUogNH The Affection Gap: Bridging Emotional Distance in a Long-Term Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4bUohkJ Workplace Dating Detours]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4bUohRL When Blind Dates Go Wrong]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4bUoiFj Comfort Vs. Fulfillment In Modern Dating]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41R8Y7P Demanding Respect and Openness in a Relationship]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4bVNmvE Get Outta My Dating Pool]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iFRbaL Seeking Clarity and Connection in Dating]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4izaKBE Gym Flirting 101]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41Yixlv Finding Balance in Love After Loss]]\r\n\r\nI took a good look around the other day and realized that people in my generation are having children out of wedlock, putting careers first, marrying later and later in life, marrying then divorcing then re-marrying, and blended families seem more prevalent than the traditional nuclear family anymore.\r\nI grew up in a household with two parents; a father who worked and a mother who stayed home with the kids (I am the oldest of 4 girls). We had to be in for dinner, at which time we all sat down and ate the one meal my mother had prepared. There was none of this eating in front of the television and mom making 4 different meals because we didn\u2019t like what she was making for my father\u2026oh hell no!\r\nWe played outside until the street lights came on; all the neighborhood kids did. It\u2019s not that we weren\u2019t allowed to stay in and watch television, we just didn\u2019t want to. There were no video games and computers for us to play on indoors. The internet had not corrupted us with too much information at too young an age. I spent my summers in the mountains, surrounded by extended family, with a mother who ran arts and crafts and school programs between letting us make mud pies and play with Tonka trucks. We rode bikes, went fishing, raised chickens, and caught fireflies. We roasted marshmallows at night under a starry sky and not a light in sight. We camped outside then snuck in to sleep on the living room floor in the middle of the night. What I\u2019m getting at here\u2026is we lived! We were active and engaged.\r\nMy mother eventually went to work but not until my youngest sister was in full day school (i.e. first grade). We had to do homework before we went out to play. We had to have clean rooms before we went out on weekends. We had to do our chores (dishes, walk dogs, etc). Things were not handed to us. We worked for an allowance to buy the things we waned. We learned the value of a dollar.\r\nI guess what I\u2019m wondering is what happened? I know not everyone grew up the way I did, not everyone had the ideal childhood, but where did the breakdown occur? The way things are now I am not sure marriage will survive as an institution. It\u2019s no longer necessary to marry before having sex or having children (I\u2019m not saying this is right or wrong\u2026just a fact), it\u2019s not necessary anymore financially as women are making their own money, and with divorce rates as high as they are people are entering into it later in life and a lot more cautiously.\r\nI have posted about marriage before and my general reservations about it; mainly centered on fidelity in today\u2019s world, but I feel this topic goes far beyond this. As somebody who is a skeptic about marriage in general, I\u2019m left to wonder what the actual perks to marriage are. I am sure children are happier in a stable home environment and two parents can better provide that, but do those two parents need to be married? Can\u2019t they just cohabitate and co-parent? I know it\u2019s nice to wake up next to somebody every morning and go to bed next to them every night. Just as I\u2019m sure it\u2019s nice to know there is somebody who loves and cares for you; somebody to share your life with. Again, I ask, do you have to get married to do this?\r\n\r\n\u201cA lover always thinks of his mistress first and himself second; with a husband it runs the other way.\u201d Honore de Balzac\r\n\r\n            I\u2019m sure some would say you should. There are those out there who feel sex before marriage and cohabitating before marriage is a sin. I don\u2019t happen to feel that way but I respect your right to your opinion. The world our grandparents lived by is no longer the world we live in. It\u2019s not necessary for a woman to marry to obtain wealth and status. It\u2019s no longer as taboo to have children out of wedlock. You are no longer a spinster if you are unmarried at 25, 30, or God forbid 40.\r\n\r\n\u201cThe fear of making permanent commitments can change the mutual love of husband and wife into two loves of self; two loves existing side by side, until they end in separation.\u201d Pope John Paul II\r\n\r\nI suppose by now you may realize that while spiritual I am not a terribly religious person, so joining together in the eyes of God and before your congregation\u2026not really a selling point for me. I am sure there is a God; through all my religious fumbling I have never doubted that. Personally, I don\u2019t believe that he would frown on me for sharing my love with somebody before paying the church and a thousand others (flowers, dress, cake, hall, etc) for a wedding. I also don\u2019t think that he has an issue with me living with somebody before marriage since the only real reason against this is because we would be tempted to have sex\u2026and I already covered how I feel about that.\r\nI have plenty of friends who are married and love it! I am happy for them. My friends are genuinely in love with their husbands (but dare I say all women are or should be at some point and this fact alone does not promise a happy or lasting marriage). I would never begrudge somebody their right to get married and I would never tell them they are silly for doing so. I have happily stood with my friends at the altar and been maid of honor and bridesmaid for women that I hope have long and happy marriages.\r\nThen again I will be in a wedding in two short weeks for on of my dearest friends, who you have heard about already but will remain unnamed in this blog. So she is marrying the father of her child who she has been with about 10 years now on and off; the past 3 years steadily. I love her, I think he\u2019s okay. The thing is that I am pretty sure he is her college love. The guy you rebel with. The one you love but will never be right for you, in short he is her EK. She can\u2019t see that though and is making what I think is a huge mistake. She doesn\u2019t expect fidelity from her fianc\u00e9. Assumes he is already sleeping around. I think this is a horrible way to enter into a marriage, but none the less, I will stand up at their wedding in my bridesmaid\u2019s gown, smile, congratulate them, and pray there is no fall out. There are some things even I don\u2019t want to be right about.\r\nI\u2019m not writing this to be purposely provocative or start some heated debate\u2026although if one follows that\u2019s fine\u2026but I am honestly, from the bottom of my heart looking for your answer. Do you feel the way I do, see the things I see, in relation to marriage in 2010? What is your take on marriage? If you are married what do you feel has been the greatest part of being married\u2026something that might make me think twice about where I stand on it? I open it up to you\u2026my 35 readers. Let me know how you feel about this.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2023-03-24","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2023-03-24","bf_horaire":"","bf_site_internet":"http:\/\/","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"CohabitationVsMarriage","date_creation_fiche":"2025-03-24 16:27:07","statut_fiche":"1","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-03-24 16:27:07","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222023-03-24\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222023-03-24\u0022 data-bf_site_internet=\u0022http:\/\/\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022CohabitationVsMarriage\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-03-24 16:27:07\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-03-24 16:27:07\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/colibris-groupeslocaux.org\/?CohabitationVsMarriage","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"Dating Profile Lies How Much Do People Really Fake It","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3QWSfe6 We\u2019re All Slutty For The Right Guy]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3QXZa6L Dear Men: This Is Why Loyalty Is So Important To Women]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3XLbF9B How Do You Avoid Dating a Liberal\/Conservative?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41EVtI7 Are You Looking For Fast Love Too?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3FhnSwB Should You Fake an Active Lifestyle for Love?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Ffy1tE When a Relationship Feels Like a Secret Mission]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41HLdPc Pushing Through It]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4bIFWvv Embracing The Unexpected Path Of Singlehood]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DzQ6SD Why Is It So Hard to Believe Someone Might Stay?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3XDyxI4 Am I Crazy Or Is He A Hot Mess?]]\r\n\r\n\r\nThere is nothing wrong with stomping on a cockroach or putting down a rabid dog.\r\n\r\nLike\r\n\r\nLOL \u2026. you really have a whole narrative mapped out here.\r\n\r\nHere\u2019s another scenario:\r\n\r\nHe\u2019s pissed because he thinks she treated him poorly. He sends Venno bill as a passive aggressive \u201cfuck you\u201d. Moves on with his life.\r\n\r\nHmmm .. I wonder which of our two scenarios is more statistically likely?\r\n\r\nNice how you ended your rant with a call to violence. Hypocrisy at its best.\r\n\r\nLike\r\n\r\nMatt says:\r\nJune 29, 2017 at 12:47 pm\r\nSpeed isn\u2019t far off with his theory. Read the linked story and do some Googling. The guy didn\u2019t move on with his life at all. He invoiced her, she refused to pay, he filed a claim in court. Then he took things public and put her on blast on social media. She eventually gave in and paid him because he wouldn\u2019t leave her alone. You\u2019re normalizing something that isn\u2019t normal.\r\n\r\nLiked by 1 person\r\n\r\nJaime says:\r\nJune 27, 2017 at 6:06 pm\r\nI think you can only venmo someone if you have their email or Facebook account first, why you\u2019d share that with someone before a first date is beyond me\r\n\r\nLike\r\n","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-03-11","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-03-11","bf_horaire":"","bf_site_internet":"http:\/\/","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"DatingProfileLiesHowMuchDoPeopleReallyF","date_creation_fiche":"2025-03-11 16:29:27","statut_fiche":"1","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-03-11 16:29:27","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-03-11\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-03-11\u0022 data-bf_site_internet=\u0022http:\/\/\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022DatingProfileLiesHowMuchDoPeopleReallyF\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-03-11 16:29:27\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-03-11 16:29:27\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/colibris-groupeslocaux.org\/?DatingProfileLiesHowMuchDoPeopleReallyF","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"Four days of ups, downs, and ups again.","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/43yBQ7b My Husband Nags Me About Being Overweight]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/428NXp9 My Husband Is Old-Fashioned and Sexist]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/43zusbJ My Husband\u0027s Drinking Is Ruining Our Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/42cDWre My Infertility Is Ruining Our Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/42owv1b My Sick Husband Got Better and Our Marriage Got Worse]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4cd2ggX My Stepdaughter Is Coming Between Us]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3XAmBXK Reasons Why Black Women Should Date Non-Black Men]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/43tYvl9 Black Women | Black Families | Polyamory]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/43sUj57 The BS Confident Women Never Tolerate From Men]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/425R4hG 3 Things You Can Learn From My Failed Relationship]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/43AFn56 Things Men Say When We\u2019re Just Running Dating Game]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3FLcZmZ Why Is It So Hard to Be Friends With an Ex?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Eag7YP The Awkward Missing Piece of the New Dating Puzzle]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4laJuuX Not EVERY First Date is a Winner\u2026]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4cjlC4m Most Traumatizing First Kiss Ever]]\r\n\r\n\r\nHow can it only have been four days since I\u0027ve updated here? I have so much info for you! I\u0027ll give you the play-by-play as if I were reporting it on each day.\r\n\r\nMonday: feeling very happy and optimistic about Mr Recurring! We\u0027re back to our previous fun e-mail banter -- in a flirty moment, he joked about playing strip poker -- and interestingly, we have not only our next date planned, but the next two dates: a lunch date mid-week, then a proper weekend night out. Am very much looking forward to both, and it seems that he is as well.\r\n\r\nWednesday: my work day was off to a hectic start, so rather than the lunch date we had initially planned, I called Mr R to ask if he was free that night, maybe we could do a casual after-work thing instead. He started, \u0022actually...\u0022\r\n\r\nHe admitted to me that he\u0027s been on a few dates with someone else -- he feels that there\u0027s a special connection there, and he\u0027d like to explore that... and as a result, feels we shouldn\u0027t be seeing each other any longer. He gave me more info than I really needed to hear: this felt like a one-in-a-million, and you can\u0027t control when this happens, blah blah blah.\r\n\r\nI told him I appreciated his honesty, and that telling me this was preferable to him disappearing -- and wished him the best of luck.\r\n\r\n(as written to a friend just after the call) I\u0027m actually crying at my desk in my cubicle right now, hoping no one comes by -- maybe this dark cloud is a little bit about him, but more about the frustration of feeling that I had finally met someone I liked, only to have it go out the window -- and a little envy over the fabulous connection he seems to have with this other woman.\r\n\r\nI\u0027ll be fine... but it just sucks right now.\r\n\r\nSpend rest of the day brooding \/ crying in my cubicle \/ eating bad junk food. Several friends offered to take me out for a drink, and I wound up meeting M and her friend This Guy -- long time readers may remember that This Guy and I had a handful of dates about two years ago, but it never went anywhere. We run into each other occasionally at M\u0027s parties, and it has always been perfectly comfortable, no awkwardness whatsoever.\r\n\r\n(strange -- just now, re-reading my almost two-year-old blog post about one of our early dates, I\u0027m surprised -- I don\u0027t recall liking him as much as I seem to in this writeup! Anyway. I fall quickly sometimes -- surprise, surprise).\r\n\r\nSo -- M, TG and I went for a bite, and my spirits were lifted immediately thanks to their company and a few glasses of wine. We were about to walk to our respective subways when we passed by New Hip Restaurant -- M impulsively suggested we go there for just one more drink, which didn\u0027t take much convincing.\r\n\r\nHowever -- at the door, the doorman \/ bouncer-type informed us: no reservation, no dice. We insisted, we just wanted to get a drink at the bar. Nope -- sorry.\r\n\r\nM and I stood there looking at each other for a minute -- I wasn\u0027t ready to give up just yet, and just had a feeling that if we persevered or brainstormed, surely, there had to be a way in.\r\n\r\nJust then, that \u0022way\u0022 became apparent: the door swung open, and an acquaintance appeared -- let\u0027s call him Funny Guy. FG apparently had some connection there, and the fact that he knew me was all the doorman needed to know -- he whisked us inside, and insisted we join him and his friends. They generously shared some of their delicious apps with us (even though we just ate, we *had* to sample -- this restaurant is a bit pricey, and I probably won\u0027t be eating there anytime soon). Every so often, it\u0027s fun to pretend to be one of the Beautiful People.\r\n\r\nFunny Guy and friends left before M, TG and I did -- when we asked for the check for our drinks, we were informed that it had been taken care of. I was touched by their generosity, and basked in the feeling that my day was finishing on a much better note than it had started.\r\n\r\nBut wait... it gets even better!\r\n\r\nM hopped in a cab, and This Guy offered to walk me part of the way home. We then walked a bit more... and a bit more... until we were in front of my place, kissing. Then in my living room, kissing. And so on.\r\n\r\nThursday: did *not* get a good night of sleep at all... but it was 100% worth it. I thought this to myself as I said goodbye to This Guy at 9 am...","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-04-02","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-04-02","bf_horaire":"","bf_site_internet":"http:\/\/","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"FourDaysOfUpsDownsAndUpsAgain","date_creation_fiche":"2025-04-02 13:05:54","statut_fiche":"1","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-04-02 13:05:54","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-04-02\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-04-02\u0022 data-bf_site_internet=\u0022http:\/\/\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022FourDaysOfUpsDownsAndUpsAgain\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-04-02 13:05:54\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-04-02 13:05:54\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/colibris-groupeslocaux.org\/?FourDaysOfUpsDownsAndUpsAgain","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"Friday Night Recap","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iU1lnV His Ex is Ruining Our Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4hG6rmS Balancing Step-Parenting and Marital Harmony]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4c3uknc Rebuilding a Marriage in the Sandwich Generation Squeeze]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iVjyS2 A Marriage Tested by Cancer]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/424burw His Business Crashed \u2014 And So Did Our Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4bWTZOh Dating a Recovering Alcoholic]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4c0TToX Is It Weird to Date a Relative?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4j03zCn His Cheatin\u2019 Heart]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iGUS04 What\u2019s Our Relationship Status?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4c0Ty5F Should You Give an Ex a Second Chance?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4c0x7gM Long-Distance Love vs. Local Connection]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iYl464 Trust in a Strained Marriage: Letters in the Attic]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4c6JiIX Dating Rules: Smart Strategy or Outdated Nonsense?]]\r\n\r\nAfter a hectic work week what do I want more than anything else? It\u2019s simple\u2026I want to have fun. I want to enjoy myself in a drama free zone, unfortunately that just never happens for me. I had a Beef and Beer to attend last night and had reservations about it since it was for Re\u2019s husband\u2019s family. I knew there was no way to avoid seeing him (I hadn\u2019t since the prior horrible weekend) and wasn\u2019t looking forward to it.\r\n\r\nRe pointed out that his parents, siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles, etc would be there and he wouldn\u2019t be getting out of control-I saw her logic but knew it was wishful thinking. Asshat and beer just don\u2019t mix without causing issues. I was right; as always (I really wish people would just accept that I\u2019m always right).\r\n\r\nThe night had such potential. My fireman was supposed to show, enjoy some beers then come back to my place to ravage me-that did not happen. Turns out the girl he\u2019s hopelessly in love with (and yes I knew about her) but isn\u2019t \u201cwith\u201d, well her mom also has cancer and took a turn for the worse last night so he stayed to be with her (commendable and understandable). I was therefore on the lookout for new love interests and there were plenty of them.\r\n\r\nThis bar was ripe with new potential. It was a \u201ctarget rich environment\u201d as they like to say in Top Gun. The guys were seriously hot, and unfortunately they were all married. Wedding bands were as prevalent as beer and beef at this thing. Why, I ask you, why? Anyway, eye contact was made, winks were exchanged, smiles were gifted\u2026and yet he didn\u2019t come over to me. I made my way to a friend who was standing near him and still nothing. No tap on the shoulder, no casual joining of our conversation.\r\n\ufeff\ufeff\r\n\r\nBlurry I know. Cutie on left (does he look like Jason Statham\r\nor is it just me) was the one making eyes at me. I love\r\nbald men! Hottie on right...married! :-(\r\n\ufeff\r\nSigns were clear that there was interest but I\u2019m not doing all the work here! I like aggressive and forward guys who go after what they want\u2026if he didn\u2019t want me bad enough to come to me then I wasn\u2019t going to him (damned Irish pride). Eh, at least it made for a fun night.\r\n\r\nAround midnight, when the free beer stopped flowing, is when Asshat decided to turn into a douche. Next thing we know he\u2019s yelling at some HUGE dude and they are heading outside to fight. Yup, fight\u2026at a Beef and Beer benefiting his aunt. What. An. Asshat. Re, little (5\u20193\u201d Re) steps in front of fucking Jabba the Hut and grips up his shirt, saying, \u201cThat\u2019s my husband and you are not going down those stairs after him. Now calm down and tell me what\u2019s going on so I can go kick his ass myself.\u201d Haha. Love her.\r\n\r\nThis guy was relatively sober and was easily calmed down. Re left to go downstairs and Jabba sat next to me smiling and apologizing for starting a fight in front of ladies. Ugh\u2026really this is the guy who decides to actively hit on me. I smiled and made conversation, trying to figure out what the fight was about. Here it is ladies and gentlemen\u2026who was going to wear the #9 in their softball league. WHAT. THE. FUCK!? I mean, really, that was worth disrupting a rather nice event for? Men are idiots. \r\n\r\nI realize that there is no way they can come back up without running into Jabba as he is still seated next to me trying to chat me up, grab our jackets, purses, etc and make my way downstairs and outside. There is Re, face to face with Asshat trying to reason with him to not go back inside and \u201cbeat the shit out of that asshole\u201d. Ugh. We convince him to leave the bar and go to a diner to get some food in his system. Seems like a great idea, right? Apparently not.\r\n\r\nRe takes off in her car with Asshat and I follow, supposedly going directly to the diner but she speeds off in excess of 55pmh in a 40 zone\u2026and I am not going to attempt to keep pace with her after having some drinks-that\u2019s just stupid. I realize though they are no longer in front of me and turn down their street. There he is, at their front door mad a shit and screaming curses her way. I caught a lot of \u201cbitch\u201d and \u201csilver spoon princess\u201d. Oh fun.\r\n\r\nRe pulls out and I follow, leaving Asshat behind and I have no idea what has happened until we reach the diner and she\u2019s red in the face. Poor thing apparently had to hear all about how he grew up in the rough streets of Philly and by pulling him away from a fight he now looks like a pussy and a whipped bitch. Um, really? No\u2026we saved your ass from getting beat down and making you look like a further tool. He apparently wanted to go home, get his keys and drive back to the bar to preserve his \u201cstreet cred\u201d by fighting this behemoth of a man. Good luck with that! Then he went in on her about her easy life and never having to want for anything (as if that\u2019s her fault-should she apologize about that?) and how he\u2026.wait for it\u2026.wants a divorce. WHAT. A. DOUCHE!\r\n\r\nI hate drama\u2026hate it! I am not a woman who enjoys gossip or fights and they always seem to find their way to me. It\u2019s pure bullshit. All I wanted was a calm night. So this Asshat, who did have the grace to apologize for his dick actions the last time he saw me, ruined yet another night. What can I do but support my friend? Nothing really but it is killing me to see this time and time again!\r\n\r\nTonight, at midnight, my baby sister turns 21 so I am going to hope for a better night in Philly tonight. We\u2019re heading out late but I expect to have a blast. Stay on the lookout on Twitter for drunk tweets. ;) I hope everyone is enjoying a more drama free weekend! Kisses to all of you and thanks for listening to my rant.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-03-25","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-03-25","bf_horaire":"","bf_site_internet":"http:\/\/","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"FridayNightRecap","date_creation_fiche":"2025-03-25 16:37:49","statut_fiche":"1","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-03-25 16:37:49","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-03-25\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-03-25\u0022 data-bf_site_internet=\u0022http:\/\/\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022FridayNightRecap\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-03-25 16:37:49\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-03-25 16:37:49\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/colibris-groupeslocaux.org\/?FridayNightRecap","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"FWB","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4j71lkI Marriage vs. Addiction: Winning the Battle for Love]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Y176Ig Marriage Without Intimacy: Can Love Survive the Distance?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RlpxUo Holding On or Letting Go: When Addiction Tests a Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3QRZeFf The Marriage We Almost Lost: How Unemployment Changed Everything]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DWXmIn Marriage And Chaos: Finding Common Ground in Parenting]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DUscBy He Seemed Interested. So Why Didn\u2019t He Call?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4j5nIH7 Online Dating Isn\u2019t Desperation]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iRfgeP Changing Your Dating Approach]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4c3yRWJ Why Modern Dating is More Complicated Than Ever]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iXYkD2 Dating Someone With Debt]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41JHmCI Marriage vs. Parenthood: Life After Having a Baby]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Xw23iW The Fine Line Between Casual Dating and Commitment]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DTawpM How to Handle the Truth After Discovering a Betray]]\r\n\r\nSummer is just flying by! It\u2019s my favorite season, and there\u2019s so much going on \u2013 someone is always organizing a picnic in Central Park to watch the Philharmonic, or there\u2019s a film playing under the stars on a pier, or a happy hour, or bike rides\u2026 it\u2019s been a wonderful, social time.\r\n\r\nNo new guys to report \u2013 you\u2019d think that I\u2019d meet some at some of these events, but that just hasn\u2019t happened yet. But there has been a bit, well, \u201crecycling\u201d of late:\r\n\r\nTeen Crush:\r\nLast time I wrote that we\u2019d made plans to meet up next time he came to town. And so we did.\r\n\r\nI got to the restaurant early to freshen up a bit, and to get a sip or two of wine in me to calm my nerves. No need to worry \u2013 the second he walked in, I immediately felt comfortable \u2013 and also very relieved. I\u2019d been worried that I\u2019d feel a sense of longing once I saw him, but it wasn\u2019t like that at all. It was more like\u2026 oh, that\u2019s it? He still looked attractive, but not quite as much as I seemed to remember. He was still smart and interesting and charming \u2013 but not in a way that made my heart a-flutter.\r\n\r\nWe lingered over drinks for a while, then had a leisurely dinner. Conversation was easy-going \u2013 no real talk about \u201cus\u201d. He walked me home. Somehow, we wound up kissing... just a bit.\r\n\r\nIt was just a nice, casual evening. We e-mailed a few times in the days following, and he left town again. I\u2019m sure we\u2019ll stay friends, but that\u2019s it. Any mystique of what \u201ccould have been\u201d just wasn\u2019t there. It is as it should be.\r\n\r\nGood Hair Guy:\r\nI met GHG about 2\u00bd years ago though Match \u2013 he was clear from the start that he wasn\u2019t looking for anything serious, as he was just out of a relationship. (more info here) A few times since then, we\u2019ve had flings here and there \u2013 a fun, casual \u201cfriends with benefits\u201d situation.\r\n\r\nI enjoy his company \u2013 he\u2019s funny, smart and interesting, and yes, cute. Then there\u2019s that fabulous, thick head of hair \u2013 I just love running my fingers through it.\r\n\r\nWe\u2019re currently taking a class together once a week. After the first class, we went to dinner and he walked me home \u2013 and we kissed at my door. We had a good laugh about it, mentioning that that was the first time that had happened in a long time \u2013 the past few times we hung out were purely platonic. Maybe because it\u2019s summer now, and there\u2019s strappy dresses, and tan bodies\u2026?\r\n\r\nAfter the second class the following week, we once again went out to dinner \u2013 a bit more wine was consumed. There was some kissing\u2026 and more. Again, just all in good fun.\r\n\r\nI\u2019m in two minds about this. On one hand, I\u2019m just enjoying being single and having fun and being flirty. On the other hand \u2013 yes, I do want someone to love, who will love me right back. Will this type of flirty behavior be an obstacle to finding a serious relationship?\r\n\r\nI read recently that if you want to attract something into your life, make sure your actions don\u2019t contradict your desires. Even my shrink has warned me about this \u2013 why spend an evening with a guy with whom there\u2019s no future, when I could be meeting someone with potential? Saying that\u2026 I\u2019m not exactly spending all my time with guys like GHG or TC. Currently playing phone tag and exchanging e-mails with a few J-guys, but no dates lined up right now.\r\n\r\nIt\u2019s a tough call \u2013 wanting to live in the moment, versus thinking long-term. To be continued \u2013 would love your thoughts in the meantime.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2023-03-27","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2023-03-27","bf_horaire":"","bf_site_internet":"http:\/\/","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"FwB","date_creation_fiche":"2025-03-27 16:24:01","statut_fiche":"1","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-03-27 16:24:01","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222023-03-27\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222023-03-27\u0022 data-bf_site_internet=\u0022http:\/\/\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022FwB\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-03-27 16:24:01\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-03-27 16:24:01\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/colibris-groupeslocaux.org\/?FwB","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"Guys -- what NOT to do","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3EfYV4e The Three Points To a Successful Relationship]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4loJpUk 3 Things to Look for in a Family Man]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jp9ZuS Marriage IS Hard Work...So What!]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4lvuNTt Why We Decided We Don\u0027t Want a Normal Relationship]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Ra5GHJ Being \u0022Hangry\u0022 Can Lead to Relationship Problems]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3G4pqu7 Why Reminiscing on Your Dating Days Is Important]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RLcv2A How Procrastination Can Kill Your Relationship]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4lioXVb Are You Acting or Taking Action in Dating]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4loE4MW Their Love Had Gone Cold]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/42Epyco They Had to Confront Her Affair]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4i7KYTO They Had to Give Back Their Baby Boy]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3E9AqG3 They Regretted Their Divorce]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4lszk9e When Home Becomes the Office: A Marriage on the Brink]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3G0c6a9 Fighting for Our Marriage After the War]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4ibLf8t We Almost Lost Our Daughter \u2014 Then Our Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RLcvzC Marriage on the Move: Loving Through Loss and Relocation]]\r\n\r\nDesperation is SO not sexy.\r\n\r\nAfter a few e-mails with \u0022Chandler\u0022 (he resembles Matthew Perry a bit in his pics), I gave him my number. I noted that after he left one message, he tried to call me less than an hour later -- dude, what\u0027s the hurry?\r\n\r\nFinally, after a bit of phone tag, we got to talking, and I found out that he was visiting family in California, and wouldn\u0027t be back in NY for another two weeks. After chatting for about 15 minutes, I told Chandler that I had to get going -- had plans with friends shortly after.\r\n\r\nHim: OK, I\u0027ll call you tomorrow.\r\nMe: (puzzled, since he was still going to be out of town for a few weeks) Well -- I have a busy weekend ahead of me, let\u0027s just try to touch base during the week.\r\nHim: When\u0027s the best time to reach you? Afternoon, evening?\r\nMe: Just try me whenever...\r\nHim: Should we talk Monday night? You\u0027ll be around then, right?\r\nMe: (getting exasperated) Well, I think I have plans... let\u0027s just talk soon, OK?\r\n\r\nNext day: he sends an e-mail with three more pics, saying these were \u0022more recent\u0022 pics of him. (so why wouldn\u0027t they be on his profile?)\r\n\r\nAnd here was the clincher: he told me that he had showed his mom my profile, and I seemed like a very nice person.\r\n\r\nDude -- too much info. This is SO over, even before it\u0027s begun. Could this BE any more of a turn-off?\r\n\r\nPerfect advice from Cute Jewess:\r\nDanger! Danger Will Robinson! Abort! Abort!\r\n\r\n*************************\r\nHad another encounter with Hot Young Guy tonight, 18 hours after saying good-bye from our first date last night. I was in a bar with a few friends when he joined me\/us. I made the introductions and we had a drink with the group before going off to grab a bite on our own. This is HUGE -- I generally don\u0027t introduce new guys to my friends until we\u0027re a bit further down the road. But since HYG will probably just be my summer fling, why not?\r\n\r\nWhy do I think he\u0027s just a summer fling, you may ask? A few reasons:\r\n* I get the vibe that he dates quite a lot -- and he said that he hasn\u0027t had a serious relationship in several years. (oh wait... that sounds like... um, me)\r\n* He\u0027s a few years younger than I am.\r\n* I just sense that we\u0027re in different \u0022places\u0022.\r\n\r\nOK, I know I\u0027m not articulating this very clearly. Let me just put it this way: it\u0027s just a gut feeling.\r\n\r\nAnd yet? The chemistry -- wow. The attraction is quite strong. I have a feeling that sex with him would be pretty rockin\u0027-- but I\u0027m going to try to hold out for at least a few weeks. We made plans to get together again later in the week.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2023-04-09","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2023-04-09","bf_horaire":"","bf_site_internet":"http:\/\/","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"GuysWhatNotToDo","date_creation_fiche":"2025-04-09 14:22:29","statut_fiche":"1","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-04-09 14:22:29","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222023-04-09\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222023-04-09\u0022 data-bf_site_internet=\u0022http:\/\/\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022GuysWhatNotToDo\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-04-09 14:22:29\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-04-09 14:22:29\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/colibris-groupeslocaux.org\/?GuysWhatNotToDo","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"Happy \u002709!","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/44iTe00 We Battle Constantly Over Our Autistic Child]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4cKWSSR We Became Parents and Fell Out of Love]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4lpTDnD We Became Parents...and Stopped Having Sex]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4ibBerW We Can\u0027t Agree on How to Raise Our Child]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3FYRYFt We Can\u0027t Get Over Our First Marriages]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4logsb5 Stress Of Infertility Is Hurting Our Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4cr7Axr We Can\u0027t Have a Baby]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4cryRzX We Can\u0027t Get Pregnant and It\u0027s Driving Us Apart]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3G4ZuP5 It\u0027s Time to Be Real in Your Relationship]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iYISHa Pop Your Comfort Bubble \u0026 Open Up To Love]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/42DqoGp Find Yourself Before Finding The ONE]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4j59XZu It\u0027s Not HIM Who\u0027s Afraid To Commit]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3YoGRvE How to Setting Boundaries Brings People Closer]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/43OxJnM Doubt Is Totally Keeping You From Finding Love]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4lpyBFF Do You Suffer From Pre-Mature Love Manifestation?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3YmbJwQ Are you looking for the finish line in love?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/43JKv6Z Learn the One Rule for Love and Dating]]\r\n\r\nI\u0027m back!\r\n\r\nAnd officially broken up with Camper, as of this week. And it\u0027s OK -- I\u0027m feeling a little melancholy, but it\u0027s for the best.\r\n\r\nAs I mentioned, things moved very quickly with us from the start. It was so refreshing, after quite a long time of dating uncertainty, to have a guy so clearly crazy about me. (in between the times that I worried that it was too much, too soon with him)\r\n\r\nAs the weeks progressed, I began to notice little things that bothered me. Nothing that made him a bad person -- but as I got to know him better, I just realized more and more that we weren\u0027t really a match. And yet - he was (and remains) such a lovely, sweet guy that I really, truly wanted to make it work.\r\n\r\nHowever -- without realizing it at first, I found myself exhibiting classic passive-aggressive behavior. I\u0027d start little spats, probably in an effort to get him mad at me. And I began liking myself less and less in the process.\r\n\r\nWe finally had \u0022the talk\u0022, and he said he appreciated my honesty. I think we\u0027ll be able to be friends down the road. While I feel a sense of relief, I\u0027m a little sad at the same time.\r\n\r\nThis situation reminded me of a job interview I had years ago, when I was just starting my career. I wasn\u0027t particularly enthused about the company I was interviewing for -- and the interviewer sensed it. She said to me, \u0022I don\u0027t think you want a job with X company... you just want a job.\u0022. I was rendered speechless, because she was absolutely right.\r\n\r\nI think that was the case with Camper at first -- I was just so excited to have a \u0022boyfriend\u0022, that at first it didn\u0027t matter that he might not be the right candidate. We had a great story behind us (reunited after 20-something years!), and I envisioned someone telling that story while giving a toast at our wedding. But in the end, that just wasn\u0027t enough.\r\n\r\n****\r\nGood story that made me laugh -- a friend had a second (or was it a third?) date with a guy tonight. She was feeling a bit lukewarm about the guy, but was excited to meet his new puppy.\r\n\r\nI got this text from her after the date: Um. Unexpected sex with [date]. The dogs get me every single friggin time!\r\n\r\nFor all you guys who think Barry White and dim lighting is the way to woo your lady... try a canine companion!","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2024-04-11","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2024-04-11","bf_horaire":"","bf_site_internet":"http:\/\/","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"Happy09","date_creation_fiche":"2025-04-11 14:57:41","statut_fiche":"1","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-04-11 14:57:41","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222024-04-11\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222024-04-11\u0022 data-bf_site_internet=\u0022http:\/\/\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022Happy09\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-04-11 14:57:41\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-04-11 14:57:41\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/colibris-groupeslocaux.org\/?Happy09","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal Steps to Heal a Broken Marriage","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3FzAU8H He Cheats on Me During Business Trips]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4kybJUa He Cheated with a Woman from the Gym]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4kybKrc He Dotes On His Son and Ignores Me]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4kUHFSz He Didn\u0027t Know How to Listen to Her]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/43N1QM8 He Flirts Too Much]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Dx1wGV Marriage Advice: 13 Lessons]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3XV0kDU Separate Vacations Don\u2019t Have to Mean Divorce]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DyQ39M Are Soul Mates Fact or Fiction?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4kybNTU Love vs. Parenthood: When the Perfect Partner Doesn\u2019t Want Kids]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4kUHHKb Caring for Dad Is Destroying My Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DJU37i First Date: Who Pays and What It Really Means]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Dv3Kqg Dating a Dad: When You Like Him But Not His Kid]]\r\n\r\n\r\nReply\r\n\r\nCali Bradshaw\r\nMarch 24, 2011 at 2:22 am #\r\nHey Jimmy \u2013 I am all for guys doing what they want, however I wonder if it gets them what they want in the end. I always hear guys complaining about not being able to find a quality girl. But perhaps that\u2019s because they are too busy \u201cdoing what they want\u201d and bc they are looking at it as \u201cnot bowing down\u201d rather than seeing it as a simple act to make a girl smile. It is all about perspective in my opinion. You can view the \u201cmodern woman\u201d as the enemy who needs to be punished, or you can embrace her. Up to you!\r\n\r\nThanks for the comment.\r\n-Cali\r\n\r\nReply\r\n\r\nbelinda\r\nMarch 23, 2011 at 2:35 am #\r\nYou know what\u2019s great about dating a strong independent woman? She doesn\u2019t need you. She wants you. You always know that. Dinner is a small price to pay for that glorious feeling.\r\n\r\nBut yeah, I\u2019m with ya on this, Cali. Guys can make all the arguments they want, but real men pick up the tab. Every argument they make is an excuse. And men don\u2019t make excuses. They pick up the tab. And the do it so smoothly, you don\u2019t even know the check has come.\r\n\r\nThat said, if you want a real man, Cali, act like a real lady. You\u2019re buying breakfast for a guy who you\u2019re fighting about tabs with. There\u2019s a milk\/cow thing happening here.\r\n","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-03-17","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-03-17","bf_horaire":"","bf_site_internet":"http:\/\/","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"RebuildingTrustAfterBetrayalStepsToHealA","date_creation_fiche":"2025-03-17 15:42:22","statut_fiche":"1","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-03-17 15:42:22","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-03-17\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-03-17\u0022 data-bf_site_internet=\u0022http:\/\/\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022RebuildingTrustAfterBetrayalStepsToHealA\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-03-17 15:42:22\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-03-17 15:42:22\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/colibris-groupeslocaux.org\/?RebuildingTrustAfterBetrayalStepsToHealA","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"Rekindling the Flame: Overcoming Intimacy Issues in Your Marriage","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DzDL0U He Had an Affair Because I Stopped Initiating Sex]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4hiX8sN He Makes Me Feel Bad About Being Fat]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DJhz4p He Lost Interest in Our Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4hkeh5t Saving A Marriage: He Lost His Job]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4ie35sj He Lets His Mother Rule Our Lives and I\u0027m Sick of It]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DPhuME Commitment Jitters]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3FBCVkF Love and Lust: When Chemistry Outruns Endurance]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4heaIh2 Bi Bi Love]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/42ejPd6 Dealing With Your Partner\u2019s Bedroom Confessions]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DL0vLm Can His Squalor Be Squelched?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/43Zhkwy Asunder Down Under]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iaTwKD Conquering Long Distance Dating]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3FBCVBb Coveting a Coworker]]\r\n\r\nWhy people can just be fair anywaythis is the line of the evolution.\r\nI\u2019m not pride of maschilism and I don\u2019t want see women in the world cleaning like slave and do thinks that don\u2019t make them feel good. The pleasure must be a fair game and on both side.\r\n\r\nReply\r\n\r\nmoro\r\nFebruary 5, 2012 at 12:06 am #\r\nJessica very good.\r\nYou just experience what a man experience the whole life.\r\n\r\nYou work hard and people seating on you..trust me isn\u2019t fun!\r\n\r\nSorry but this is real life. You arent different from others. You have been just the typical spoil incomplete woman that can\u2019t find a man attractive and be in a relationship if he doesn\u2019t take care of you.\r\nWrooong! That was your daddy not your man!\r\nIf you couldn\u2019t effort why you haven\u2019t stay home with him a chatting on the couch.\r\n\r\nMen don\u2019t get from women anythingh of what the own fantasy imaging expecially sexually.\r\nExample : Having sex with a hot stranger is a unbelivable experience for a man. Everyman should try.\r\n\r\nA woman must wait 3 weeks or months before intimacy.\r\nA man at that point has lose 80% of his creativity.\r\n","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-03-18","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-03-18","bf_horaire":"","bf_site_internet":"http:\/\/","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"RekindlingTheFlameOvercomingIntimacyIssue","date_creation_fiche":"2025-03-18 16:48:52","statut_fiche":"1","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-03-18 16:48:52","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-03-18\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-03-18\u0022 data-bf_site_internet=\u0022http:\/\/\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022RekindlingTheFlameOvercomingIntimacyIssue\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-03-18 16:48:52\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-03-18 16:48:52\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/colibris-groupeslocaux.org\/?RekindlingTheFlameOvercomingIntimacyIssue","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"Relationship Advice: Toxic Friendships","bf_description":"\u0022\u0022\u003Ccenter\u003E\u0022\u0022=====Advice for Starting the Friendship Breakup Process and Tips for Recovering From a Friendship Breakup=====\u0022\u0022\u003C\/center\u003E\u0022\u0022\r\n{{attach file=\u00221464028878612x612.jpg\u0022 desc=\u0022\u0022 size=\u0022big\u0022 class=\u0022center\u0022 caption=\u0022image 1464028878612x612.jpg (42.7kB)\u0022 nofullimagelink=\u00221\u0022}}\r\n\r\nHave you ever noticed that everyone talks about (and writes books on, and dedicates songs to \u2026) how hard it can be to get through the loss of a romantic relationship, but when it comes to those that are platonic, mums the word? The truth is, though, that they can be just as -- if not more than --devastating.\r\n====When to Let A Friendship End====\r\nFriends -- they\u2019re our second families, our trusted confidants and automatic teammates, fellow partyers, side-by-side buddies and they usually last longer than lovers.  On the other hand, sometimes, when you stop to think, you find that certain friendships are causing more pain than laughter, more avoidance than fun, and more grief than relief.\r\n\r\n\u0022\u0022\u003Ccenter\u003E\u0022\u0022**Sponsored Ads** | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026page=5 Find American Girlfriends]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-Kingdom-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026page=5 Meet British Girlfriend]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/France-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026page=5 French Single Girlfriend]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Australia-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026page=5 Dating Australian Girlfriends]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Spain-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026page=5 Spanish Girlfriend Near You]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Italy-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026page=5 Single Female Friend From Italy]]\u0022\u0022\u003C\/center\u003E\u0022\u0022\r\nThe truth about friendships is that they\u2019re often fleeting. People do grow apart, and sometimes it\u2019s better to just let the friendship fade than to force it. The fact that you\u2019ve known someone since your Barbie years doesn\u2019t give you anything in common as adults except for a once-shared crush on Ken. In order to mature, there are some things you have to let go of, from your Barbie collection to the friends whose company you no longer enjoy or who require much more energy than you\u2019re (or they\u2019re) willing to give.\r\n\r\nIf your different directions in life are the reason for the strain in your friendship, then it\u2019s likely that your friend is feeling the urge to let go as well. The end of this friendship doesn\u2019t have to leave either of you with the bitter taste of a failed relationship \u2013 it\u2019s a simple fact of life that it\u2019s time to move on.\r\nMake plans for a \u2018break-up\u2019 dinner, where you reminisce about your past and wish each other the best in the future. It\u2019s a mature end to a friendship and a civil step towards greater maturity.\r\n====Toxic Friendships====\r\nSo-called friends who mooch your money, strain your sanity, take up all of your time or put you in situations where you simply don\u2019t feel comfortable are no friends at all. These are also the people who aren\u2019t easily blown off because they either don\u2019t get the hint that you don\u2019t share their friendly feelings or because they just don\u2019t like taking no for an answer.\r\n \r\nWhile it may be difficult \u2013 and it may sound mean \u2013 the best way to end this kind of toxic friendship is to simply say, \u2018I don\u2019t think we should be friends anymore.\u2019 If she pushes for an explanation, which she probably will, don\u2019t waste your energy listing all the reasons why she\u2019s become a burden. Simply let her know that you want to focus on the positive things in your life. This should clue her in to the fact that she\u2019s not one of them. Between real friends, family, careers, and social activities, you\u2019re too busy to waste time on people who bring you down. Your time is valuable. Make the most of it by streamlining your social circle to include only the people who really matter to you.\r\n====Starting the Friendship Divorce Process====\r\nThe truth is, there is no easy way to do it, but communicating is always better than avoiding someone; the latter choice would only cause you to duck-and-roll behind the frozen meats when you see this person at the grocery store. Instead, place a phone call to this person and ask, \u0022Is there something about our friendship that isn\u0027t working for me. How do you feel about that?  This single question will at least produce some dialogue and the two of you will come to a mutual decision.  If you decide to be ex-friends, the grocery store may still be awkward, but at least you won\u0027t have to duck-and-roll right?\r\n====3 Tips Towards Recovering from the Loss Of A Friendship====\r\nMake sure you understand, as much as possible, why the friendship has ended, and have made every attempt to repair it. Even if it\u2019s impossible to mend, knowing that you tried is key to moving on with a clear heart and mind.\r\nDon\u2019t forget the other people in your life. 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I was fresh out of a pretty sketchy relationship with my former therapist. (Duh, bad idea, right?) I was still in and barely coming out of a deep-down-supper-shitty, bad-as-its-ever-been low point. I was upset with myself for making yet another bad decision when it came to a relationship (or relationship material) and upset at the universe for all the time and space I had wasted in my life wishing for some Knight in Badboy Armor to come trotting into my life only to rip my life out of my own hands and trample it under his sexy horse.\r\n\r\nBut after being single for 2 years, the gloss and struggle of singleness wore of. There was a honeymoon period that I had with myself and it was over.\r\n\r\nBut I loved the community I had found through Singlutionary. This blog fed my soul and my fellow bloggers were a rare light for me during a very difficult time. I felt sane and comprehended and like I was a part of something important when I wrote and read and commented and conversed in the singles blog-o-sphere. So I kept trying to keep this blog up.\r\n\r\nBut I was bored. I was bored with everything. After a traumatic experience, it takes a long time to feel stable again. And at first that stability is like this great and wondrous thing. It feels SO GOOD.\r\n\r\nAnd then it gets boring. Suddenly, stability is taken for granted. I wondered what was next? What would I do with my life now that I had my life back in my own hands, mended of horse hooves and heartbreak?\r\n\r\nI needed a new real life friend, some intellectual stimulation and a job that didn\u0027t suck.\r\n\r\nAnd I wanted to be with someone in a sexual\/love relationship because THAT seemed like the new adventure. And because I\u0027d finally got enough confidence in myself and in the world to think that being in a relationship could be a positive thing -- as long as I did it Singlutionary style.\r\n\r\nWell, the first relationship was a disaster of needyness. I was Singlutionary and the other member of this relationship was Needilutionary. It was over almost before it began, but not soon enough.\r\n\r\nI was so glad to be single again after that 4 month 1st try.\r\n\r\nBut I hadn\u0027t had sex in over 2 years and I was on the prowl. But THAT story is the subject of another post.\r\n\r\nThe point of this post is that even if you\u0027re totally happy and comfortable with being single, sometimes you get bored. Sometimes you\u0027re bored because your job is boring or because your friends are all old farts or because you\u0027re an old fart and only like to watch old episodes of The Wonder Years on VHS and think about the olden days.\r\n\r\nSometimes you\u0027re horny because you haven\u0027t had sex in 2 years and you\u0027ve just turned 30.\r\n\r\nIt is OK to crave a new adventure! Sometimes this adventure means going offline for a bit, or quitting writing for a bit. And sometimes this adventure means trying out that thing that we\u0027re all about doing just fine without -- a relationship.\r\n\r\nWhat adventures are you craving? 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